How To Be Happy When You Lose a Loved-One

How to be Happy when You Lose a Loved-One 

By: Angely Rose

From: Tara Magalski

Losing someone you love is one of the most painful tragedies a person can encounter, whether that someone is your dearest teacher, friend, family member, life partner or colleagues. All individuals on Earth must have gone through this problem at least once in their life. When experiencing loss, it doesn’t always mean death, but also personal departures and other circumstances that take away our loved ones. This problem is one of the major problems that most people encounter because it can cause many mental health problems including depression, stress, and many more. It makes studying, working or just living hard and painful. So, how can we cope with those emotions after losing our loved one? How do we learn to take steps towards a new life? It might seem hard at first, but consider these following steps to help you and do not forget to stay COMMITTED throughout this whole journey to a new beautiful life.

All of the Steps to Help you to be Happy Again:

Self Awareness

First of all, we need to learn how to be self-aware. In this step, you can take a deep breath and learn to accept all of the truths about yourself and the situation. It’s totally normal to feel sad, just allow your emotions to come out because it is also an important part of being aware of your emotions and how to control it. During this step, it is important to keep out all of the accusations (either it is self-accusations or accusations for other people). Thinking about our or someone else’s fault is not going to help you to get that person back, so learn to keep out regrets and accusations out of your beautiful mind! Life is a maze with many different possibilities, the ones that we chose and the one we have never entered. This leaves us with the ‘What-ifs’ or the “If onlys”. But those thoughts only bring us pain and regrets which brings us nowhere. Life is full of everybody coming and leaving, so just let it be and learn to accept it (even though I know it is hard).

Expressing and Controlling Your Emotion

Grief is a hard process, so expressing your feelings is an extremely helpful way to help you cope with it. You can express your feelings through many different ways. The way that I suggest the most is writing your feelings down, in a diary or your personal journal. Writing is one of the best ways to express your emotions because you can release all of the details out on the paper which can be a good way for you to reflect back on the situation later. Sometimes, when you read that later, your perspective towards the situation might change a lot and it helps you to see how you were, how much you have improved, and how far you have come.

Another way of expressing ourselves is through verbal communication. You can find people whom you can trust or can relate to the topic the most to talk to and to let them help you. After you release all of your emotions, you are going to feel much better. Whew! On the other hand,  if you just let the feelings and emotions eat you up inside and just hide it, I can assure you the situation can be worse because those negative feelings are really powerful. Don’t ever let them have control over you!

After that, you need to learn how to have control over your thoughts and emotions. I know that there might be a lot of negative feelings and thoughts after you lost someone. It is totally fine if you have them a lot at first, but you need to learn how to control it step by step. You need to learn not to let that pessimism overwhelms your mind. Try to take a step out of the darkness and another step into the light. One way of doing this is to try.  

Start to Work Towards Goals

Losing someone you love is extremely hard to cope and is time-consuming. It is a huge obstacle that holds you back from completing your goals in life. So, you need to restart working towards your goals or you can create a new list of goals. Grab a sheet of paper, write down a list of things you think you can do to help you start again. You can try putting things like being social active again, join more social events, find new hobbies or you can spend more time with your hobbies. Focus more on yourself, you can try setting more goals that can allow you to take care of yourselves. Create some me-time and allow yourselves to do the things that you like. Hobbies or interests can help you a lot better.

Look Back to the Positive Sunshine

After allowing enough time for you to be sad and to grieve, you can start to look back into the positive sides. Please remind yourself of how the person that left you would want you to be. They would want you to be happy and strong to continue the journey without them. They trust you to continue the journey with a smile, so please make that come true. Think about how far you have come and listen to the words that the person who left has told you. I can assure you that you will definitely meet other new people that mean so much to you in the same way. Just allow some time for yourself to come back.

Allow yourself to find a new light, new journey, new hopes, and new possibilities. Although you have lost someone important, you can still be strong and happy to continue your own life. Start planning what are you going to do next. What is your next step for your life? Make some changes, take some risks, try new things, find light to your world. Usually, new things can lead you to unexpected and amazing destinations.

Lastly, let the past be and START A NEW JOURNEY!

Here is a website you can visit for more information on the five main stages of grief.

https://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/

 

Children Must Have The Right and Access to Education (Argumentative Essay)

Angely Rose                                                                                                                                      `12/12th/2018

Children Must Have The Right and Access to Education

There is a quote from Nelson Mandela who is the former president of South Africa: “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world”. This quote is really true and that is the reason why all children deserve the right and access to quality education. Unfortunately, According to the United Nations Sustainable Development website, “Over 265 million children are currently out of school and 22% of them are of primary school age”. This statistic bespeaks that there is a huge amount of young children around the world who still need help getting a decent education. One of the main reasons for lack of quality education is that some developing countries are having the struggle to give every single child the access to quality tutoring due to poverty and other emergencies that the countries need to handle. Furthermore, the need for quality teaching caused by “the lack of well-trained tutors, inequality problems related to the opportunity provided to rural children and girls, and the impoverished conditions of schools ”(United Nations). However, I firmly consider education as a prominent right that all children must have.  Although education requires a lot of money and time, every single child that is in the age of going to school must have access to and the right to education. Education for a young child is extremely crucial for empowering individuals and help them to reach their best potential, reducing poverty, and benefits of future economic growth.

Although education depends heavily upon inclusive finance, offering education to the young generation can reduce poverty in the impoverished community. To demonstrate, in many developing countries, poverty is one of the main problems that people are dealing with. Poverty is the state of extreme sufficient in the financial field. The problem is that the shortage of money can affect and lead to other problems including low access to education, clean water, and nutrition, hunger, etc. However, by offering adequate tutoring to children, it can reduce poverty and give many benefits to our society in nearly all aspects which is the key to sustainable development. Villa Kulid, Director General of Norad, gave a speech about education and how it can help to reduce poverty as well as other problems. He observes that “One year of education is associated with a 10% increase in wages”. (Kulid) This fact shows that education has a huge power to enlarge the wages of the workers. Education can boost incomes for citizens and giving the consequence of dwindled poverty.  Furthermore,“A newly published paper by UNESCO shows that education is critical to escape chronic poverty and to prevent the transmission of poverty between generations.”, as demonstrated by Kulid’s speech. This statement has indicated that education is a major factor to decrease poverty in different generations and communities. Education has the power to let individuals find their potential and help their community, boosting incomes and decrease poverty.

Another reason that explains why education is essential to us is that it is a considerable factor that can help to determine how blooming the economy of a country is.  Investopedia, which is an international website edited by writers who are financial experts and advisors since 1999, also discusses education impact on the economy. Investopedia observes that “globalization and international trades depend upon the competitive economy between countries. Therefore, each country needs to have a buoyant economy that is supported by decent education.” Brent Redcliff, who has years of experiences in digital marketing, analytics, a freelance writer for Investopedia and currently works as an analytic manager in Accenture, wrote an article titled, “How Education And Training Affect the Economy” that was published in March 2018. Brent Redcliff wrote that a “resilient economy has the capability of operating different industries that can compete with international standards. To meet this standard, we need a lot of scholars who possess the skills and knowledge to build a powerful workforce. What’s more, it also helps with employment within the country as well. In fact, the employment rates in different countries are based on the education levels of their citizens” (data.oecd.org, 2018). In conclusion, education is needed in order to create a prosperous economy in a country.

What is even more important than helping to boost the economy and lower the poverty rates, education can leave remarkable impacts on each individual life of those young children. By delivering education access to children, it gives them a huge opportunity to find their potential, dreams, passions, and talents which they will live upon and pursue further throughout their lives. To put it in another way, Education has the capability of empowering individuals and gives them the chance to reach their greatest potential which can help to reduce inequality in society. After they found out their passions and talents, they can pursue a career that can further support their communities and countries. A great example of that is a Pakistani teacher named Mohammud Ayub that has committed his life teaching other people the basic subjects including math, English, etc. He is a Pakistani scholar that used his knowledge that he had gained to spread and help his community back. He has made a big difference in each student’s life that he taught and the community around him. (Associated Press and Newsela Staff) In addition, the process of education that includes many subjects including Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math will give guidance for student’s passion, prepare them for obstacles and improve student’s critical thinking skills. In scmp.com, UChicago professor says that “STEM help to prepare students for the future that awaits. Education in schools is imperative for children to find their passions, potentials, and talents which can reduce inequality and lead to sustainable developments in communities.”

In conclusion, Education for children is an essential field for development in each country though it requires money and time. In addition, it helps to reduce inequality, poverty, boost the prosperity of the economy, and empowers those individual children who are educated to help their community and society back. By offering the right and access to quality education for children, it is a huge profit for everyone in nearly all aspects, including the community, country, family, and individuals. Therefore, the right and access to quality education is exceedingly an important right that every and single child around the globe deserve to have in spite of any conditions or situations that they are under. There are a lot of works to be done in order to help all children in the world to gain access to quality education

Works Cited:

https://www.un.org/sustainabledevelopment/education/

4 Quality EducationUN.org 12/7/2018  

https://newsela.com/read/pakistan-teacher/id/8162/

Associated Press and Newsela staff, “Pakistani man teaches poor kids in a park, keeps promise to his dying dad.” 03/27/2015. 12/7/2018

https://www.investopedia.com/articles/economics/09/education-training-advantages.asp

Brent, Radcliffe, “How Education and Training Affect the EconomyInvestopedia.com Dec 5, 2018. 12/7/2018

https://www.scmp.com/news/hong-kong/education/article/2156080/how-stem-education-can-help-hong-kong-children-live-their

How STEM education can help Hong Kong children to live their dreams SCMP.com Friday, 20 July 2018. 12/7/2018

https://norad.no/en/front/about-norad/news/role-of-education-in-ending-extreme-poverty–taking-a-global-lead/

Villa, Kulid, “Role of Education in ending extreme poverty – Taking a global leadNorad.no   11.11.2014. 12/7/2018